Accost 10 Igala ladies and ask them their preference for a husband, expect 9 of them to gleefully wish Igbo and Hausa guys as preference for marital choice. To them, these guys are damn romantic, spend handsomely on their women, unlike their Igala gender. This trend is alien to our mothers who stuck to our fathers to birth us. The average Igala lady never sees her father as an ideal husband to her mother; to her, her father isn’t a worthy reference to a cute, loving and romantic husband to her mother. This assertion is a proven reality with evidence of defence.
The Igala husband baked mostly in the flour of conservatism; who follows the dictates of tradition and the compass of culture is a turn-off for our Igala girls. Paranoid by the ‘jew’ lives of Igala men, our girls seek freedom in the hands of other tribes – with those with faith tied to Christianity going mostly for the Igbo guys while the Muslim ladies find marital refuge in Hausa guys. Good development for integration but tragedy for our sanity especially when these matrimonial voyages are anchored on greed, material gains and avarice. When you marry for fame, money and contest, you end up wrecked and even killed. For true love sees no barriers and wears no colour of tribe.
There have been reports of spousal deaths recently in Nigeria, and the victims have been mostly Igala ladies. To escape from the ‘boring and non-romantic ‘ grips of Igala men, our ladies seek hurried refuge outside and in doing this, they throw caution to the wind. They discard the compass that guides marital rites. In traditional Igala setting, a lady does not bring her man for marriage, the man first sends his family in advance, a lady does not cohabit with her fiancee, she lives separately until the rites are tied, wives are not given to husbands but their parents. This is to ensure the security, dignity and wellbeing of women. Today, our ladies rush at men, sponsor their weddings and even house their men in the new trend of civilisation. ‘Abuja marriage’ has sent our ladies to their untimely ends than any other ugly reality.
The latest is the painful and sad end of Evelyn Afia, the lady whose fiancee strangled in Lugbe area of Abuja a few days ago. She was murdered by the man she housed, fed and satisfied sexually. While not blaming the dead, what justification Is it that a lady would camp a jobless man in her house? The guy no get family or friends? What sick love is that? What happens to your pride as a woman abi this too na the part of feminism thing?
The heartless guy killed her, emptied her account and left her body in rot and shame. With no family trace, he disappeared into oblivion even with the cheering news of his arrest, our sister lay dead in the morgue with unfulfilled dreams.
Dear Igalas Slaying ladies, there are many romantic Igala guys who respect, love and adore women, your fathers are amongst them, because they loved your mothers, the reason they beget you. Be like your mothers and stay alive. Frankly musing